4 Rules For Teaching Children To Share
If you want to teach your children to share and not to be those children that everyone avoids for their lack of goodness and their selfishness, in this article we offer you a series of tips that can help you. Here are 4 rules for teaching children to share.
4 rules for teaching children to share
If he is an only child, treat him as if he has siblings
Although this is not always the case, only children often become the center of the family since their birth, they grow up selfish and do not know, or rather do not want to, share. Therefore, if you have only one child, do not educate him with the understanding that it is all due to him and that others should honor him.
All family members must participate in the housework, without exception. When you buy candies you go home and divide them into equal parts; in the same way, if you have an extra income sometimes, the child gets a toy, mom gets a nice perfume and dad gets a new shirt, because everyone deserves it in the same way.
Don’t force them to share
One of the main rules for teaching your children to share is not to force them to do so. In general, if you force any human being to perform an action, the opposite effect is obtained. The obligated person is led to respond with rebellion, or, in some cases, the goal is achieved at the expense of his happiness.
Never force your child to share. If he doesn’t want to lend his favorite toy car when his friends come home, don’t take it out of the hiding place where he put it to give it to other children. That way you will only get him to take a tantrum and lose faith in you.
It would be better, before his friends arrive, to talk to him and explain to him how much fun they would all have together with that toy. Remind him of the times he went to his friends’ houses and that they shared their toys with him.
Use every tool you can so that when the other children arrive, he feels comfortable seeing others play with his toy car, but if in the end you still can’t convince him, don’t force him to do what he doesn’t want to. The time will come when you will be able to reach your goal.
Teach children to share by setting a good example
Your children learn from the adults around them. In order for them to be able to share, do the same towards them, set a good example.
Children see their best teacher in their mother. If you tend to be selfish people, too jealous of your possessions, don’t expect your children to be full of goodness and little attached to material possessions. Therefore, to teach your children to share you have to lend them your things.
If they are valuables that can break, sit them on the bed to avoid any accidents. Let them look, touch, study and explore that much desired object.
Keep in mind that your little ones must experience firsthand the beauty of sharing, the joy that comes when others share their objects with them and even entrust them with their most precious objects.
Good feelings must also be shared
When it comes to sharing, the first thing that comes to mind is to lend objects, or offer others something to eat; however, feelings can also be shared, and just as with material objects, it is essential to teach your children to share them. Hugs, kisses, caresses, affectionate words, compliments … all actions that involve feelings of love must be shared.
Your children need to know that it is beautiful, and above all it makes them human to show affection to others, give a kiss when greeting someone, and do good. If they have a chance to bring joy to someone by sharing good news with them, let them do it. This too is sharing.
All that is good in them must share with those around them, with the people they have to deal with, including strangers.
Finally, to teach your children to share, teach them never to ‘settle down’ on the bad deeds committed by others. Their behavior must not be based on what others do or do not do. Those who know how to share can live better than those who never learn to do so.
