Father Absent? Be There For Your Children

Don’t be an absent father, be a present father for your children, from when they are small until you think they are old enough not to have great needs. If you’re short on time or away from home, there are always ways to connect with them and enjoy all the happiness they have to offer.

Do you have to be absent for a few days for family problems? Keep your phone on even at night in case one of your little ones needs to ask you a question, to know how you are or just to hear your voice.

Does the pressure of work make you stay locked in the office all the time? You are lucky enough to be a father in this age where you can stay connected with chat, email or video call. Use these means to communicate with your children when you can’t be by their side. Digital natives of the 21st century will love using technology to feel close to you. Sure, they’d rather hug and kiss you, but the fact that they can count on your attention even during rush hour will help them a lot.

Do you arrive home when I’m already asleep? Go give them a goodnight kiss even if they don’t realize it. The next morning, look into their rooms to scramble them a bit before going to work. Take advantage of this time and plan walks or games to play on the weekend.

Dad, on  We Are Moms we want to help you connect and maintain the bond with the most important people in the world: your children.

The absent father

The absent father is the one who is detached from his children in an affective sense. Whether or not they live in the same home, this parent is unable to establish an emotional bond with their little ones, either because they don’t care, or they have too much work and little time, or they don’t know how to do it.

An absent father is away from his children in the most important moments:  when they need advice, to be hugged, kissed, picked up, when they have a doubt to clarify …

Even if they sit around the same table, or share the sofa in front of the television, an absent father and his children remain the polar opposite.

Where do absent fathers come from?

Absent fathers are often children of men with the same characteristics. They grew up with emotional deficiencies and did not receive the teachings of affection and attachment from their parents.

There are absent fathers who are social victims. They grew up in an environment where men are seen as tough individuals who have the role of financially supporting the family while women provide for the affection of the children.

Finally,  there are absent fathers who have been raised with love, have received the best education. However, their selfishness, narcissism and little empathy do not allow them to act sensitively.

As you can see, the causes are varied.

Don’t be an absent father, be a present father

Dad, the children of the absent father grow up with emotional deficiencies of all kinds. In addition to psychological behaviors and disorders,  these children can develop a rejection of the affection that others show them. They are sad and unmotivated children, they lack self-confidence. Some of them become unruly and rebellious, while others become enormously sensitive  and develop an excessive dependence on their attachment figure – usually, the mother.

Therefore you must know that  you as the father of your children must be aware of their financial and emotional shortcomings.

It is your responsibility to support them and give them everything you can based on your income. You have to strive every day so that their needs are not ignored. Just as you had a beautiful childhood, you must make sure that theirs too is as happy as possible.

Furthermore, it is your duty to educate them, prepare them for the life that awaits them. You have to teach them and guide them so that in the future they can fix something around the house or teach quantum math in college.

As the father of your children, the commitment to transform them into honest, happy, upright women and men rests on your shoulders. It is your job to listen to them, console them, give them courage, talk to them about any topic that interests them, praise them, appreciate them, reward them.

Those who think that being a father is easy is very wrong, because  dad is synonymous with attachment, sacrifice, tenderness and unconditional love.

Be a present father to your child right now.