At Our House We Give Hugs And Kisses, We Say Good Morning And Good Night

The home, the home, is the first social environment in which our son lives. In addition to the actual furniture, it contains all an emotional and educational furniture that will guarantee the psychological integrity of the little one. If you give each other hugs and kisses, and learn to thank, the child will become a happier, more respectful and wonderful person.

All sociologists and all psychologists know this:  the dynamics that occur in a house directly determine a person.

What happens within those four walls is sometimes a small version of society itself. There, too, a democratic or dictatorial education can be established.

For this reason, as mothers and fathers we should have in mind right away the type of approach we will use to raise our children.

Every word, every action and every gesture will remain etched not only in the mind of our little one, but also in that thin and invisible fabric that forms a house.

Experts in the psychological climate of an environment know that the interactions that develop between the members of a social group such as a family almost unconsciously create an atmosphere that can often be quickly read emotionally.

Sometimes just seeing a face or hearing the tone of voice with which group members communicate to understand if happiness reigns in that environment or if floors and walls are steeped in unhappiness.

We must be aware of this: a home is a refuge and a psychological and emotional reference for every child. So let’s build the most beautiful, most welcoming, cheerful and meaningful house for this new life.

My house is small but the hearts that inhabit it are very large

There are houses that are bigger inside than out. There are houses where only by crossing the threshold you can breathe the balance, the affection imprinted on the faces, the respect that pervades the environment  and the happiness of a child who grows up convinced that that house is a castle.  

Those are undoubtedly the happiest houses. They are characterized by certain elements. Let us pause for a moment on the latter.

A house where positive emotions dominate

Homes where positive emotions dominate have tenants with emotional intelligence .

• For positive emotions to be present, we need to learn to manage negative ones. When there is anger, for example, it should not be hidden or disguised. It must be expressed with respect and assertiveness to reach an agreement.

• Homes where happiness and harmony reign  are inhabited by empathic people. That is, people capable of putting themselves in the shoes of others to understand their point of view and to offer solutions.
• A happy home is one in which one educates through positive emotional caresses. That is kisses and hugs, closeness and that fabric rich in love in which every child feels appreciated and protected.

A house that educates with values

Educating children according to noble values ​​helps to offer society more civilized people, who care more about others, about nature and about building a world in which harmony reigns.

• The first points of reference of that social fabric are the parents. It is therefore advisable  that  we immediately teach children simple gestures such as learning to say thank you and good morning, to make use of that terminology that goes far beyond simple courtesy.
•  The child will learn from an early age what effect these social displays of respect have around him.
• By thanking and apologizing, he will realize that these are powerful words, gestures of approach that help to earn respect, friendship and gratitude. 

Values ​​are social constructions containing a noble way of understanding the world and life. If we introduce them in dimensions such as love of nature, animals, equality, justice, recognition of the weakest, helping others, reading, knowledge or freedom, we will give the world very special people. .

To conclude, never forget that a home is much more than a place made of walls and windows in which to take refuge and live. A home is a place of coexistence, a second maternal womb where the baby will learn the most important things. 

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