Rebellious Behavior: How To Educate A Teenager
Some parents simply lose control when their children become teenagers. They realize their interests are changing and continually clash. Today, we want to talk to you about how to educate a rebellious teenager.
The most important thing to never forget is that they are still your children. They need your attention and protection as parents. Certainly in situations of rebellious behavior your role must be strengthened.
Maintain parent status
The first step in correcting a teenager’s rebellious behavior is to understand that this is not the time to be friends. You don’t have to turn into tyrants of course, it wouldn’t be healthy. But it must be clear that you are the adult in charge.
If you don’t keep this role, your child will get confused. It is very important to establish clear rules and modify those that do not work. Respect must prevail at all times.
Ask your child’s opinion on certain issues. But don’t lose control over things that can affect your health, well-being and education. This way, your child can choose how they prefer to dress but not to leave school because they don’t want to go there.
Establish clear rules
Have you ever thought that your teenage son’s rebellious behavior is due to the fact that the rules are not clear to him? We mentioned earlier the importance of making him understand who the adult in charge is. But have you ever told him clearly what is expected of him?
As a parent, give him time to explain what you want and what is expected of him: school grades, compliance with the curfew, proper behavior, housework to be done. To be clear, you need to speak clearly with your child.
Sometimes seeing a messy room, with clothes everywhere, as a sign of rebellion isn’t necessarily right if you’ve never made it clear that this is something to be avoided. Communicate clearly and calmly what you think is acceptable behavior and what is not.
Clarify the consequences
A teenager’s rebellious behavior manifests itself through shouting, swearing, and a lack of house rules. For this, appropriate consequences must be established for the failure that has occurred.
Keep in mind that adolescence is the stage of rebellion par excellence. Boys challenge the limit of the rule to see how far they can go. Once you get to the point where the rule has been broken, you must impose a punishment that truly matters to them.
You can take something from him that he likes but without causing trauma. Good examples are the mobile phone or the video game console. Or suspend permission for an activity if it doesn’t affect the rest of your duties.
Once the punishment has been decided, do not accept any compromise or negotiation. Guys can be very convincing and most of all persistent. Remember that any punishment that is not respected is another infraction of the rule.
Maintain mutual respect
If your child’s behavior includes disrespect, you shouldn’t fall into his game. Saying unpleasant things to him could ruin your relationship and that’s not what you want.
You must always remain calm. If you are nervous it is best to postpone the conversation until you are calmer. Talking to your child after hours, they are likely to apologize. At this point, accept the apology and choose the appropriate punishment.
Don’t take your teen’s rebellious behavior personally
Rebellious behavior is one of the young people’s ways of discovering the world. Remember that he is in a stage where he is discovering reality, looking for his identity and discovering what he likes.
The worst thing you can think of is that he does it on purpose to spite you. Give them time to understand and to talk to you. You will see that in time he will be able to find his place in the world, not without doubts and questions.
